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Parenting the Spectrum

Experience the confidence, peace and joy that has been missing from your parenting journey.

All parents deserve access to the knowledge and support they need to feel confident and capable of meeting the needs of their children.

Hey Mama, you made it.

 

I'm so glad you are here. The information on this page is meant for you.

 

If you are anything like the moms I work with you would do anything for your kids and you are used to giving until there is nothing left. You may also feel like no matter how much you give it's just not enough.

 

The demands of parenting a neurodivergent child can be overwhelming, exhausting, and frustrating. You just want to help them embrace their differences, learn new skills, manage their emotions, and enjoy life a little.

 

But it's a struggle, and you are tired, physically, and mentally drained. All you want is some peace and calm, a little cooperation, some ease, maybe even a little joy.

 

You may feel guilty or ashamed at not knowing how to help your child or for not enjoying them, but you are just exhausted.

 

Maybe you've read all the books, seen counselor after counselor, tried ABA or medication, and aren't seeing results OR maybe you're trying to avoid that whole experience for you and your child and are looking for another way.

 

You are not alone.

 

 

Breathe mama, there is a better way. One that aligns with your values and your view of your child as a whole human worthy of love and respect.

But how? You ask.

By learning, growing, and stretching ourselves.

By surrounding ourselves with information that challenges our conditioned beliefs about what we think our child or our parenting should be. By owning our fears and desires.

 By challenging the way we are and the beliefs we hold about ourselves and the kind of parenting experience we believe is possible.

​By feeling deeply, and learning how to recognize and move through emotion, and find safety in our bodies so that we can support our child to grow emotionally and intellectually.

By first gaining the skills ourselves, so we can model for and respond to our children with attunement, empathy, confidence, clarity, clear communication, and creativity. 

​By allowing ourselves to be witnessed, seen, and understood by parents who are walking the same path we are and know the deepest fears and desires of our hearts because they have them too.

I get it. 

Parenting a special needs child takes us to our edge. It forces us into places that we resist.

It challenges us in ways that enrage us, creates deep resentments toward our child(ren), partner(s), and motherhood in general.

It is also enriching and purifying. ​It's baptism by fire. But it doesn't have to be this hard or this painful.

So where do you go from here?

Join the Empowered Parenting Project!

The Empowered Parent Project is a 12-week program devoted to parents like you, who are seeking guidance through your most challenging parenting moments with your neurodiverse child(ren).

We will cover the ins and outs of Empowered Parenting, providing you with a concrete framework you can work into your daily parenting journey. 

The intention of this course is to arm parents with the information they need to make grounded and informed decisions that align with YOU and your unique child, plus give you the tools you need to thrive through conflict and big emotions, and the confidence you need to integrate the tools you're learning.

Here's the Week-by-Week Breakdown of What you'll Learn Inside the Program:

Week 1: Welcome and Orientation

Our first session is to set the tone and help you ease into this process.

 YOU WILL LEARN:

  • What to expect

  • How to settle into a “Brave Space”

  • All about your coach trainer Casey Tabolt

  • The logistical “ins and outs” of the next 11 weeks

Week 2: Setting Your Intentions as an Empowered Parent

Here we will become clear about what you will receive from our Empowered Parenting Process. We will explore how you support yourself through stress and your strengths as a parent, and any fear that could be getting in your way.

 

 

Week 3: The Ten Core Pillars of Empowered Parenting

Here we will explore the Ten Core Pillars of Empowered Parenting. We have broken down these pillars into three segments: The head, the hands, and the heart. 

YOU WILL LEARN:

  • What dedication means as an Empowered Parent

  • The Ten Guiding Principles of Whole Family Empowerment

  • The Power Over Parenting Paradigm

  • The Power Under Parenting Paradigm

  • The most common obstacles that keep parents from embracing Empowered Parenting.

 

 

Week 4: Making Sense of Attachment Science

Here we will explore your generational patterns of connection, intimacy, and relational safety. How we parent, ourselves, and our children, is an inheritance, passed down from generations before us. We will not make your history nor your present bad, or wrong. We will name it for what it is, and make a commitment for what you’d like it to be moving forward.

 YOU WILL LEARN:

  • What creates a Secure Attachment

  • What creates an Ambivalent Attachment

  • What creates Avoidant Attachment

  • What creates Disorganized Attachment

  • How to earn a Secure Attachment within yourself so you can offer this to your children, no matter their age

 

Week 5: Making Sense of Nervous System Science

The physiology of Parenting is the cutting edge of understanding our internal world as parents, and the internal world of our children. With understanding, comes calm. With information, comes internal safety. We must know the ins and outs of our nervous system so we can support our children’s budding nervous system. We believe this information is intuitive and defies science...or language...yet we utilize both to meet ourselves where we are at in this day and age. 

 YOU WILL LEARN:

  • ALL behavior is our best attempt to meet this one core need: SAFETY

  • How to be your child’s Safe Harbor by becoming your own Safe Anchor

  • Understanding of how the nervous system works

  • Polyvagal Theory and the Vagus Nerve

  • How to support our children through sensory overload back into safety

  • How to track your nervous system Thermometer and return to calm

  • The art of Rupture and Repair

  • Emotional Freedom Technique: “Tapping” for Nervous System Safety

 

Week 6: Making Sense of Mindsight and Brain Science

As we continue our journey to equip you with an embodied understanding of the Ten Core Pillars of Empowered Parenting, and returning you to your rightful place: Secure Attachment, we will move into understanding the power of the mind.

YOU WILL LEARN:

  • What Mindsight is and how to use it

  • The neurology of Empathy and Compassion

  • How parents are literally their children’s brain sculptors!

  • How to choose curiosity rather than judgment

  • The Six Barriers that keep us from Mindsight

  • The Seven Encouragers of Mindsight

  • Brain development for children birth-age 30

  • Understanding our subconscious mind and our belief system

Week 7: Making Sense of Emotional Intelligence

The heart of Empowered Parenting is understanding how our physiology, brain, and emotions work together to create our inner orchestra. Understanding Emotional Intelligence provides both the parent and the child with inner and outer freedom to live whole, full, exuberant lives together.

YOU WILL LEARN:

  • What Emotional Intelligence is

  • How it serves

  • What keeps us from embodied Emotional Intelligence

  • The new communication of Feelings, Faux Feelings, Needs, and Beliefs

  • How we can support our children’s emotional development

  • An emotional body guided meditation and instructional video

  • “Permission to FEEL”

  • Non-Verbal Self Empathy

Week 8: Empowered Conversations

We have laid the foundations of the head, heart, and hands of Empowered Parenting. Now, we move to the voice. Navigating this new paradigm of connection, relational safety, inspiration, and presence, requires a “PhD in Communication!”. We begin that process here together.

YOU WILL LEARN:

  • Your generational patterns around the experience & expression of anger

  • Your generational patterns around voice and expression

  • Your belief system around voice, expression, and feelings + needs

  • a Ten Step Process of Empowered Conversation

  • What blocks us from communicating consciously and non violently

  • How to make a clear request versus a demand

  • How to model intentional speech

Week 9: The PEACE Process

You’ve made it to the Essence of Empowered Parenting! Here we combine everything you have learned so far into our Jai Methodology of PEACE. We believe ALL conflict within a parent + child dynamic, or between siblings, can be solved PEACE-fully. With our methodology, all punishments, contrived consequences, threats, bribes, and excess rewards can be set out to the curb. We have the practical, actionable steps you need to thrive through disconnect, confusion, and parental overwhelm during your most challenging parenting moments. 

YOU WILL LEARN:

  • What holds you back from surrendering to play?

  • The Five-Step Process of PEACE

  • How to shift from Power Over or Under Boundaries into Power With

  • The art of the Loving Limit

  • Boundaries from Soul Values

  • How to focus on engagement over expectations

  • Your role in teaching children how to keep their agreements without shame

 

Week 10: Anger and Healthy Aggression

You’ve made it! We’ve moved through ten weeks together. You began this journey in the unknown, unearthing whatever was ready to be transformed. You dug in & committed to what you are willing to release. You listened intently for the new beliefs within you that longed to be heard. You’ve gained clarity & inspiration. You’ve released. You’ve dared greatly. You’ve received. Now, let’s celebrate! Let’s lay out how far you’ve come.

YOU WILL LEARN:

  • Generational patterns around anger and aggression

  • How to move through anger in your body in a way that is harm-less

  • How to practice, & model, anger resolution for your Child

  • How to hold space for & support your Child’s anger processing

  • A deeper awareness of your judgments & beliefs around anger

  • How to anticipate anger by reading your body’s cues

  • How to befriend your anger in whatever way serves best

Week 11: Playful Parenting and Storytelling

Play is every parent’s superpower! We will explore your playful inner self, so you can meet your children in theirs, no matter the age! 

 

YOU WILL LEARN:

  • The Twelve Play Languages

  • The Four Temperaments

  • The barriers that keep parents from playfulness

  • How to transform conflict through empathy & play

  • Role-reversal & healing role play

  • Healing stories for stressed behavior

  • How to connect to your inner Child & reclaim play

  • What games speak to your heart & how to introduce them to your Child

  • Games, games, and more games!

Week 12: Your Personal Transformation

Let's look back and discuss how you have grown through this process!

Here's what other moms are saying...

Working with Casey has been life-changing. I found myself stuck as a mom trying to control so much with my kids and I was exhausted. I came to her convinced the issue was something I needed to fix in my kids. Casey gently guided me to see the beliefs and patterns holding me back from getting the results I wanted and then supported me to change the way my home operates and feels. I wish every mom could have the experience Casey gives in truly hearing me, empathizing with me and lovingly showing me what I couldn't see on my own so that with my new awareness I could make the shifts I so desperately wanted. I feel connected to myself, I understand what is happening in me and my children and I know what to do to feel connected to my children without the need to control. What Casey is helping me do for me is having a huge impact on my children and my interactions with them. I've been skeptical for a long time that a program for moms could help my kids. Casey will make you a believer.

Jessica W.

Mom of 4

It was a fulfilling and emotional experience.  Some of the emotions popped up unexpectedly but brought things to light that I wasn’t realizing triggered me that way. Casey is easy to talk to and great with coaching you or helping you to dig deeper. I am so much more aware of the things I need to feel nourished in every aspect of my life. I never even thought of things, people, and how they nourish me. So this is huge! Parenting from a more forgiving perspective. We will have good days and bad days, as will our kids, we will all try again tomorrow to show up better. Being able to acknowledge that parenting is difficult for everyone and we are all doing our best and we all know what’s best for our children. 

Mindy A.

Mom of 1

Casey has a deep passion for helping moms break the patterns that keep us from meeting our children where they are, and holds a vision for your most compassionate self. She knows that every mom is doing her best in a world that doesn't support moms nearly as much as it should, and that we all want our children to grow up to be happy, kind, and healthy. She has the patience of a saint and lives her gentle and positive parenting values with her own kids. In working with Casey I was able to make a very powerful shift during our second call. I would highly recommend her as a coach for moms who are overcoming parenting struggles or medical separations from their children, who are trying to use a positive parenting style.

Racheal N.

In Loving Memory of this Beautiful Mom of 1

Schedule your connection call now...

Want to learn more? Want to know if we are a good fit? Wondering if this will work for your child? Other questions? Schedule a free 30 min connection call with me!

Hi, I'm Casey

I am a thrice certified coach (WPCC, ICF, Jai Institute for Parenting) and Brainspotting practitioner who helps moms of neurodiverse children confidently meet the needs of their children and themselves so that they can experience the peace and joy they long for, and finally, enjoy motherhood.

Just as importantly, I am a mom of 2 beautiful children. One neurodiverse and the other currently undiagnosed. I am also a survivor of Guillian Barre Syndrome (GBS) and know firsthand how the pressures and demands of motherhood and parenting a special needs child can rob you of enjoying your kids, and your sanity if you let it!

I'm on a mission to create a network of support for parents of neurodiverse children that allows them to have access to a holistic approach to treating and overcoming the unique challenges they face all while supporting them to nurture and support their children to become the amazing humans they were born to be.

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